The Best Self Defense For Women
by Ryan Young, Professor, Kama Jiu-Jitsu

In late 2015, there was a rape that occurred in Lewisville, TX. Our studio in Flower Mound, TX is in the next town over from Lewisville. Both Lewisville and Flower Mound (especially Flower Mound) are among the safest cities around, so to have violent crime happen so close is always a wake up call or sorts.

Some have said that getting a Concealed Handgun License (CHL) would be the solution that presents the best self defense for women.


Perhaps not.

There are many facets/details/circumstances/variables that happen in an assault. For instance, what if the gun is in her purse (which is latched/zipped shut) when the attack occurs? What if the attacker (who is thinking she could be armed before while assessing his “prey”) rips her firearm-carrying purse off her shoulder and throws it to a place that is out of reach to her? What if she actually does reach the handgun and the attacker is able to wrest it away from her?

If she is not adequately trained without having access to her firearm, how effective will she be then?

As the women who have left our 1-day seminars have learned, protecting yourself needs to be an everyday thing; but 99% of women do everything wrong!

There Are 4 “Stages” In An Altercation

1. Be Aware, and Make Your Potential Attacker Know You’re Aware of Him Through Eye Or Verbal Contact
2. (If being “aware” doesn’t prevent an “approach”) Prepare For the Approach By Taking Necessary Steps
3. (If preparing for the “approach” doesn’t prevent the “grab”) Make It Difficult For Him To Grab You And Take You To HIS “Safe” Place
4. WHEN you’re grabbed and WHEN it goes to the ground (there is no “IF”)…You had better know what the heck to do in these situations.

I can tell you, after teaching many women, we have not come across ONE woman who has done three (3) of the above four (4) correctly.

I can also tell you, that no woman in our seminars (who was confident she could) has been able to stop me from subduing her with very little effort on my part. And, I’m not a big guy by any means. I’m all of 5’5″ and 165lbs.

“I train in Krav Maga, which is what the female soldiers in the Israeli Defense Forces are trained in. That’s real street fighting.”

Perhaps it is, but like any standing-focused martial art, it is not complete. Sure, they teach grappling… Well, they don’t. The “grappling” they do is largely useless. Just know, that despite your Krav training (or any other martial arts training you’ve taken), once you’re on the ground, all that technique you trained so hard to master, goes “out the window.”

All those groin strikes, punches, eye gouges are available to a defender in FEWER INSTANCES than we are all led to believe. As stated in the previous sentence, a larger, stronger attacker with any level of self defense training can protect himself from all those strikes women are usually taught to stop the attack. Remember, the attacker also has the element of surprise on his side!

In our 1-day sessions, we teach women #1, #2, and #3.

But #4 is where the situation gets REALLY real. No attacker will attack someone bigger, stronger, faster than he. He will ALWAYS attack someone who he perceives as (much) weaker than him. Since women on average, are shorter, lighter, and not as physically strong as the average man, it makes total sense that any woman can count on being attacked at least once in her lifetime.

For most women, by the time #4 is reached by the assailant, IT’S ALL OVER. The odds of him getting what he wants from you is very high.

Once he is done, he just has to determine if you live (and potentially identify him to the authorities) or die.

BUT, #4 can be a woman’s BEST CHANCE OF SURVIVAL…IF she has been trained to deal with #4.

And THAT’S, what we teach women at Kama Jiu-Jitsu.

Nothing is more empowering to a woman than knowing that IF an attack on their person is inevitable:

1) she has the tools to recognize and potentially avoid the situation,

2) she can certainly slow an attacker’s progress in taking her away to a remote place, hidden from potential rescuers, and

3) if the physical attack gets taken to the ground, she can actually be in an advantageous position to be the one inflicting damage on her assailant.

At Kama Jiu-Jitsu, we are a Gracie Jiu-Jitsu school that teaches you the “mindset” of Gracie Jiu-Jitsu, not just Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. We do this to protect us on the street; not to score points or gain an “advantage point” on our opponent. We teach you Gracie Jiu-Jitsu as we learned it from Helio’s sons (in particular, Relson, Royce, Rorion, and in particular, Rickson). Come join us for 1-week of free Gracie Jiu-Jitsu classes, and you’ll see how valuable a skill you will have!


Our jiu-jitsu school campuses in Orange County, CA service Laguna Niguel, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, San Clemente, San Juan Capistrano, Mission Viejo, Aliso Viejo, Lake Forest, Foothill Ranch, Rancho Santa Margarita, Trabuco Canyon, Ladera Ranch, Irvine, Tustin, Costa Mesa, Santa Ana, and Huntington Beach.

Kama Jiu-Jitsu, Laguna Niguel Campus
23500 Club House Drive
Laguna Niguel, CA 92677

We are located inside the Laguna Niguel Racquet Club

Kama Jiu-Jitsu, Irvine Campus
5 Ethel Coplen Way
Irvine, CA 92612

We are located inside the Racquet Club of Irvine

Kama Jiu-Jitsu, Dallas Campus
1121 Flower Mound Rd, Ste 560
Flower Mound, TX 75028
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